I Do....I Think.

While many people see divorce as an ultimate factor for younger people to prevent marrying, I see it as a factor to a social problem. It is true, in the 1960’s both women and men had fewer options economically, educationally, and to an extent who they married. I say to an extent of who they married because racism was still a factor in some places. In today’s society, most men and women are empowered with choice. Birth-control pills have given women, in now-an-age, opportunity to decide whether or not they are ready for motherhood. This allows them to pursue their academic careers and it gives them time to plan when they want to start a family. With a chance to follow their academic journey, women have a fair chance to obtain a well-paid employment. With this, women in society now-a-days can be economically independent and not having to rely on marriage as a source of income like the women of the 60’s would.

            When we think of marriage, we think of monogamy; they go hand in hand. However monogamy in mammals is not scientifically proven. It is thought that sexual monogamy goes against our biological structure. Though, personally, I don’t know of any one that accepts being cheated on and being nonchalant about it. I believe that when you marry someone, you entrust them on an intimate level; infidelity is a form of betrayal on that trust. Today’s society depicts marriage as more of love notion and rightly so. Love drives people to situations they otherwise wouldn't see themselves in.

            Mexican lawmakers proposed marriages with expiration dates. The proposal takes away the significance marriage originally held. While a lot of people may see this as a good alternative to divorce, in my opinion it is a bad example to set for future generations. In past times things that would break wouldn't

 necessarily be thrown out and replaced by a new product; the same was said about relationships. When relationships faced problems, the couple would work on their disputes and fix them. In today’s society, people faced with the same dilemma would much rather start all over as appose to fixing it. There’s a saying, “the grass is greener on the other side because they water it.” It takes nurturing for a relationship to prosper. It’s a relationship of two and it takes both of them to maintain it. People give up when things get tough and stop nurturing the relationship. If you look at any marriage that ended in divorce, you will see one person who stopped caring about the relationship and thus the marriage began to crumble. I believe that if you intend to be in a relationship and expect it to last, you should be yourself from the start. Some people will not accept you, but it will only take that one person to accept and appreciate every aspect of your persona. If both of the people in the relationship are themselves and truly open up, that relationship will only get stronger. The next step would be living together. Some say that you don’t really know someone until you live with them and it is true. It is a different environment as contrast to simply dating. It will be a preview to your marriage life together. From there, it makes it easier to decide whether or not you would be happy marrying that person or not. I believe that knowing who you marry is vital to a long and happy marriage and prevents so many divorces. Marriage is not alive nor dead; it’s what we, as individuals, make of it. After all, it takes two to tango.